Ang Pow to Cover Cost in Wedding Dinner

This is really a very super duper weird custom in Singapore. In my opinion, weddings are parties that the bride and groom host to invite all frens and relatives to come and share the joy with them. Not to share the cost of the dinner they host, so that they can "sei bin" right? Oh come on. this is so weird. Many brides and grooms need to depend on the dinner ang pows from the guests to cover the cost of their wedding, a party they hold for people to come and enjoy(?!). How can the guest really really enjoy at the thought that "oh man, another wedding=a bigger hole in my pocket" ?

No way am I gonna let that happen in my wedding. I rather save on the expensive hotels and go for smthg really simple so that my guests can really come and "share this joyous occasion with me and my husband", nothing having to worry abt the stupid angpow.

I am gonna write in my invitation card that no angpow is expected. Dun feel pressured if never give. really really really. Cos this is MY party, I treat my guests. I dun wan them to pay for their own meal. But of course, I will not stop people from wanting to bless me, cos that's really the original purpose of a gift or an angpow. To bless. Not to "help cover cost", not to "pay for own meal", not to match up to "market rate".

Talking about invitation, I want to personally invite my guests lo. Watever the method is, I will personally invite them. I will not just pass to someone to pass to another someone. Oh come on, this is so insincere. If you are just inviting to "fill up the seat", dun invite den. I want to invite people that i want to share the joy with. I am impressed by CL who came personally to my house to give me my invitation card lo. I am not even very close to her. This is sincerity.